ServiceNow Project Manager interview questions

A recruiter reached out to me about the job opportunity. I spoke with them in detail about my experience. Had to submit additional information about myself. They prepped me on what I should prepare for before having my interview with the hiring manager. The hiring manager interview was very casual but we didn't discuss what I was prepped on; they instead did a deep dive into my background. I thought the interview went well even when they pointed out my areas of opportunity. However, when I got feedback from the recruiter I was told contradictory information about how the interview went. Honestly, it was insulting and a waste of my time. I would have been fine not advancing to the next round due to what I lacked in experience, but I was told it was because I didn't lead the interview. How is an interviewee supposed to lead if they aren't the one hiring for the position??